NVC – You and Self-Connection

Linda Rysenbry

To be really tuned in to oneself, one’s worth and to take care of and nurture oneself – can seem herculean some days!

On other days it’s a breeze, isn’t it?

Do you ever wonder – what gives here? How can this be when I am the same person – yet up and down it goes . . And that’s it – up and down go our emotions and on and off go our thoughts.  Moving all around are also our deeper needs.

I find a huge amount of peace and calmness is accessible – thanks to the framework of NVC – it gives a means of organising all of this and accessing my wisdom that lives within or underneath this inner experience.

NVC literally helps all of us to do this – to make sense of oneself at a deeper level than the shenanigans of the mind and emotions. :+)

Rather than do this on a random crises driven basis . . . I want to remind you that what makes a lasting difference is where your focus goes each day.

So today I am here encouraging you to pause each day to connect with yourself.

The basic Self Empathy process learned at an NVC Foundation training is a wonderful support.  So definitely turn to that. For more depth and practice in how you befriend and relate to yourself in a variety of settings there is the next retreat My Relationship with Myself : Building Self, Worth, Love and Care.  At this retreat we approach 3 new levels:

  • Deeper practices of self-connection
  • Bringing compassion to parts of myself that just don’t believe in my worth and lovability
  • Resting in self connection even when it’s challenging

Of course you already are valuable, lovable and peaceful – that is how we see you.  There is no adding to or improving who you are at our retreats,  just practising finding our way back to our natural compassionate nature.   We look forward to hearing any questions or reading your comments about how you connect with yourself regularly.

Love and gratitude
Linda (and Shari and Dorset)

2 Responses to NVC – You and Self-Connection

  • Hi Linda, Shari and Dorset, I found myself the other early morning giving myself a hard time for being defensive and having a trait of to prove myself. I kept asking myself why I had to be like that.. why did it just keep popping up.. why did it seem to be so deeply ingrained.. why .. why .. why.. I was going nowhere and then noticed how tense I was.. face.. arms.. legs.. I couldn’t relax. Then I remembered to ask myself “what needs is this behaviour meeting for me”. It took less than half a minute for the need for emotional safety to arise… as I came to this realisation for myself I could feel my body relaxing and easing.. I spent the next while thinking of distant past times that I didn’t feel or might not have felt emotionally safe .. and perhaps of how I may have had to prove myself for love and attention. Something inside said this is something that won’t be overnight. I made a request of myself (and agreed to it 🙂 ) to write the essence of this down and to reflect on it before sleep at least a few times per week.. that’s my start for regularly connecting with myself… and I look forward to more learning around this at the next ENVC retreat 🙂 I think also sharing this here is part of my path to healing 🙂 Philip

    • Thanks so much for sharing Philip, and how liberating to find touch this self compassion. I like the practise you have set for yourself… I imagine it really cultivating this self care.
      Love Shari

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