Author: Shari Elle

We have just finished another enriching 5 day NVC retreat, Returning to Love: Growing Intimacy and Connection. During this retreat one of the revealing themes (there were many!) was the exploration of how to relate from our most whole and loving self through recognising when we are operating from the different approaches of dependence, independence…

Did you ever ask for something using your ‘best NVC’, only to hear your voice quiver and your request sound whiny and way less than appealing? I have – and it was repeatedly painful. For about the first 4 years of learning NVC I struggled to make attractive requests – especially when it was for…

Have you ever tried to use NVC and wondered, “What went wrong?” You had the best of intentions, you got clear on your needs, you imagined what they may be needing, you stayed present. BUT… somehow it actually happened very differently from the sweetness of how you imagined the interaction would go.   And perplexed,…