Category: ENCT Blog

Hello, It’s Dorset here. I’m one of the three ENCT trainers, and I’m writing from Gili Air, a little island close to Bali, where I’m having a break. Are you considering joining us for the October ENCT Retreat at Songline, my home near Byron Bay? This one is about your Relationship to the World. Imagine…

Today I asked two participants who attended the ENCT retreat, Connecting With Myself – Building self worth, self care, and self love, last June, how their lives had changed as a result of attending the retreat. This is what they said: “The course gave me invaluable practical experience in the moment-to-moment process of connecting deeply…

To be really tuned in to oneself, one’s worth and to take care of and nurture oneself – can seem herculean some days! On other days it’s a breeze, isn’t it? Do you ever wonder – what gives here? How can this be when I am the same person – yet up and down it…

We have just finished another enriching 5 day NVC retreat, Returning to Love: Growing Intimacy and Connection. During this retreat one of the revealing themes (there were many!) was the exploration of how to relate from our most whole and loving self through recognising when we are operating from the different approaches of dependence, independence…

I have lost count of how many times I have been asked if I still have arguments in my own intimate relationships. And the answer is “yes”. Sadly, I still react unconsciously sometimes. So what is the difference between how I was behaving in my relationships in my youth – which never lasted more than…

Walking down the road, one thousand cicadas singing, blue sky overhead and the ocean tumbling on my right … I’m grateful. Grateful for every person I know (and those I don’t) who reach for the sweet spot of life. As you are engaged here with this email list – I’m guessing that includes you! Here…

Did you ever ask for something using your ‘best NVC’, only to hear your voice quiver and your request sound whiny and way less than appealing? I have – and it was repeatedly painful. For about the first 4 years of learning NVC I struggled to make attractive requests – especially when it was for…

Greetings from Dorset — in Tanzania, Africa ! Hi, For those of you who don’t know me, I’m Dorset, one of the three trainers who present the Embodying NVC Consciousness Training. Our next Retreat is about relating with the world and I have been doing that big time over here in Africa for the past…

“I want to really live my life, not grapple with it all the time.” I totally agree! How about you? In all that we do at the ENCT, our focus is on living a wonderful life! Sure, we process pockets of pain, especially when on Retreat. But that’s not our main focus. Why? Because whilst…

“I notice a major shift in me after this last retreat.  I am more self-responsible than I have ever been in my life, so I am far more peaceful within myself – instead of focusing outward on other people and stressing about them not doing what I want them to do!” ~ Participant in My…